I was told by an acquaintance that I occasionally keep in contact with that he somewhat recently had an affair on his wife with another woman. He lost a great job because of it. I asked him if he and his wife were still together and working on repairing the relationship. He said that she tried to work with him to repair the damage, but that he just couldn’t let the other woman go. So they got a divorce.
Matthew 5:32 says:
“but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.”
This, I’m sure, is a heavily debated verse, especially given the high rate of divorce. So how do we interpret this? What happens in the case of the woman I mentioned above? Her husband cheated on her. She tried to work on it with him, but he ultimately left her for another woman. Is she not allowed to remarry then? There seems to be a pretty big difference between a woman who divorces her husband because she “doesn’t love him anymore”, versus a woman who is cheated on and then left for another woman, but that sort of distinction doesn’t exist in Jesus’ teaching here.
According to the first part of this verse, she did not commit adultery, because it ultimately is based on unchastity. The semi-colon on the next verse somewhat separates the previous thought to a degree. Jesus says whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. There are no conditions like divorce in the previous sentence.
So while I know this is heavily debated, I’m curious what you think.